Grace D6: The Weight of Ownership In BDSM circles the term..

Grace D6: The Weight of Ownership In BDSM circles the term ownership gets used a lot, but what does it really mean to "own" someone? The specifics vary by couple, but at its most base form it's an agreement of submission by the submissive and an acceptance of responsibility by the dominant. The dominant acknowledges they will always place their subs wellbeing above their desires. Continually educates themselves to become a better dominant. Consent will always be at the forefront of their mind. Limits will be established and respected. Fantasies will be pursued in the safest manner possible, both physically and mentally. When all the fun is done, thorough aftercare will be provided. The fact that submission is a gift will never be forgotten. The submissive acknowledges they will obey (except brats, where ya'll at? You the real MVPs). Will be completely honest with themselves and their dom when limits are being established. Even in the deepest, darkest subspace communication will be maintained. Understands that it's not only the doms responsibility to continue learning, but theirs as well. Uses safewords when needed, does not push far beyond their limits without prior discussion. I realize to those not into BDSM, it can feel like we take ourselves way too seriously; and ownership is certainly a sliding scale from a D/s couple who simply gets kinky in the bedroom and then returns to normal life to the other end of the spectrum with total power exchange (TPE) couples where the dominant can control every aspect of their subs life 24/7 from what they wear each day, up to their career decisions. So, depending on the couple, it can get serious. To me ownership entails all the above points, but these points must be common in every D/s dynamic, and ownership is a step above and beyond that. Thus, in a serious dynamic like I have with @fawndley, there is one additional guiding principle above all, lead her to be a better person then when we first met. She was great when we met, but I want her to be fucking incredible. In the truest sense I want her to be strong, brilliant, independent, and financially sound. I want her to be able to walk away from me tomorrow with no hesitation if she so chose with no coercive thoughts lurking in her mind, and not a shred of codependence tying her down; she remains because submission is better than freedom. But in submission, I will help her find the keys to absolute freedom.